One of my favorite parts about owning a recruiting agency is that I get to help people each and every day and reflect back to them their own greatness.
I will never forget a bracelet my sister gave me, with a charm on it that said:
“Let this be your greatest task,
let this be your greatest joy,
to give people back to themselves,
even in their darkest hour,
especially in that hour.”
This is how I look at my job as a recruiter.
When someone comes into my office and tells me that they cannot do it or that they are not worth it, it is my job to help them see the possibilities and opportunities that are right in front of them.
It all starts with a shift in their perspective and their vocabulary.
I had one such situation recently.
A job seeker came in to interview with our office.
He was a recent college graduate from a top school, but unfortunately, the school of life had given him some tough lessons before graduating.
He shared with us that when he attended college, he was always comparing himself to everyone around him.
They all seemed to “have it together” and “be successful.”
Somewhere along the road, he told himself he was not ever going to be “that person” ... you know “that successful person” because of where he came from.
His situation is not a unique one.
I often have people who come to my office and struggle to even make eye contact during the interview because of fear, shame, or uncertainty.
(Start with Bringing A Winning Mindset To The Interview.)
The Power of Thoughts, Words, and Actions
We started by looking at the disempowering words or phrases this young man was using in his interviews and in general conversations he was having.
Some of those phrases included:
- I cannot
- I don’t know
- I am not sure
- I tried
Then we looked at his disempowering body language:
- Arms crossed
- Looking down
- Looking away
- Leaning back in his chair
Next, we looked at the thoughts he was thinking as he was interviewing:
- I am not smart enough
- I come from a working-class home
- Other people are smarter/better than me
- I don’t have enough to show on my resume and/or in my background
Once we were able to look at how his thoughts, words, and actions were aligned to create how he was coming across in the interview, we then had the opportunity to re-program his mindset.
All he needed was to transform from a disempowered mindset to an empowered mindset.
We first helped him replace the disempowering words he was using with empowering words.
These included phrases such as:
- I can
- I am
- I will
We then replaced his distant body language with engaged body language such as:
- Open posture
- Uncrossed legs
- Slight lean in
- Strong eye contact
Empowering Mindset Exercises
Finally, we discussed exercises he could do to create an empowering mindset prior to an interview,
- Looking in the mirror and telling himself, “You are the man! You got this!”
- Creating a statement of intent that stated:
- The job he would have
- When he would have it
- How much it would pay him
The last step was having him declare that statement of intent out loud first thing in the morning when he started his day.
It also involved him creating a positive intent prior to an interview.
By reprogramming his words, thoughts, and actions, he now has access to landing his dream job effortlessly and with ease.
What About You?
These simple steps are something any job seeker can do to create an empowered mindset prior to an interview.
This means you!
- Replace disempowering words with empowering words
- Replace distant body language with engaged body language
- Look in the mirror and tell yourself, “You got this!”
- Create a statement of intent that includes the job you want, by when you want it, and how much it will pay.
- Declare that statement of intent out loud every morning when you start your day.
Though your resume is important, it is your mindset that truly determines your success in landing the job of your dreams.