Rejections are inevitable when it comes to job searching. Rejections are preferable to the crickets you mostly hear in response (or lack of response) to your job applications.
The chances are you’re going to hear many tell you “No” and hear plenty of silence before you get to hear a “Yes.” It is unavoidable.
Here's an option during a job search: Beat yourself up
You can make that rejection notice or non-response mean something about you as a human being. You can let it define you as a leader or valued and valuable contributor to the world.
Let’s choose another option
Instead, I want you to ask yourself about any thought that comes up for you during your job search:
How does asking these questions make you feel?
How do you feel when you think the following?
- "I'm too old to get a job" - You feel old.
- "I'm not going to get a job without a bachelor's degree" - You feel unqualified.
- "I bombed that interview" - You feel unprepared.
- “No one is even bothering to respond to me” - You feel unwanted.
You just feel some yucky thoughts and that is all. It gets you nowhere.
There’s simply no upside to thinking these thoughts
These thoughts won’t help you to stay motivated during your job search. You will not show up as the best version of yourself.
These thoughts will likely lead to you pulling back on your job search efforts. Picture a turtle, tucking his head under his shell and you’ll have a good visual.
You and Mr.Turtle are both hiding because that way your old, undereducated, stinky-interviewing-self can’t be rejected anymore.
As a result, you and Mr.Turtle will languish in Unemployment Land or stay stuck in “The Land of I Hate My Job”.
The truth behind why you are stuck
You’re not stuck because you are too old, don’t have enough education, or don’t know how to interview.
You are stuck because you think you are too old to get hired. You think you don’t have enough education or can never be educated. You think you don’t know how to interview.
There is a major distinction between “reality” and “what you think”
How does it feel when you think the following?
- "I still have 10 or more good years to contribute to a company.”
- “The right company will value my wisdom and experience."
- "I have skills any company would benefit from."
- "I learned a lot from that interview, and I will do even better the next time."
You feel productive, qualified, desirable, and greater feelings that will propel you into positive actions.
There’s plenty of upside to thinking these thoughts
These thoughts will keep you taking positive action until you land your dream job.
Are you correct to think “I bombed that interview”?
Are you correct to think “I will be a tremendous asset to any company”?
No one knows. The point is there’s no upside in thinking negative thoughts in your job search or in life, for that matter.
My coach says that we're all delusional, so we might as well be delusional in our own favor.
In a way, this feels good because positive feelings will generate positive action. And positive actions will generate the desired result.
Repeat after me when the job search goes wrong
Say this to yourself when your feelings are negative:
“I will be an amazing addition to the right company. I will go through as many rejections as necessary to get to my dream job. I am a fantastic employee.”
Now go out there and get rejected. Get ignored, lather, rinse, and repeat.
And keep telling yourself how amazing and qualified you are. Keep reminding yourself how much you will contribute to the company smart enough to choose you.
After all, you are amazing. You are qualified. You will make tremendous contributions.