It’s Monday morning. You are sitting at home getting ready to go to work (or perhaps log on for your shift) and that familiar feeling hits you.
The knot in your stomach that comes up every time you think about your current job.
You know it hasn’t always been this way. But is it a sign it’s time to walk away?
There was a time, not so long ago when you truly looked forward to starting your workday. Closing deals, knocking out tasks, launching and completing projects, and interacting with your coworkers excited you.
Lately, it isn’t the same. Here are 3 signs that it’s time to make a change.
1. Lack of trust
It could be your peers, boss, or others in your organization, but for one reason or another, the lines of trust just aren’t there. Perhaps they were never built in the first place! In that case, there’s always a new chance today!
However, once trust is broken in the workplace (depending on the severity), it can be very difficult to restore. It requires a conscious effort from both parties.
If it is truly damaged beyond repair, it may be time to walk away and start fresh. I am a firm believer that, “Obedience can be commanded, but trust must be earned”.
2. Your feedback is no longer desired
This is a sticky situation. Everyone wants to feel like they are open minded and great listeners. Of course, they want to be “innovative” and “think outside the box”! No one’s personal brand statement includes “Expert Stick in the Mud.”
However (especially if you are a leader), if the response to your feedback always feels like it starts a battle, there’s a chance that you are working for someone perpetually resistant to change. Again, there’s no hard and fast rule here.
Certain organizations have a culture of being nimble and moldable while others may be more established in their ways. You have to always be mindful of when your “feedback” is being perceived as “complaining”.
Play to your audience. Share both problems and solutions! If you have 2 out of 20 ideas you are empowered to run with, do it!
How you handle that opportunity will set the stage for the future. However, if you are never given the chance, feel stifled at every turn, and can tell that sharing your feedback is working against you, it might be a sign it’s time to walk away.
3. You don’t feel safe
This can be associated with broken trust but is much more serious. If you don’t feel that your safety and personal well-being matters to your employer, it may be time to walk away. Life is too short to live with regrets.
It is possible to become overly sensitive (ex: worrying you can’t take a 3-hour break every day to watch your toddler sleep). However, if you don’t utilize earned time off work, and find yourself missing every single family/school/social function because of the fear of retribution from your work, do not ignore the red flags.
If you feel your personal safety is at risk because you are being placed in situations that expose you to unnecessary physical harm, don’t assume that you have to take it!
Your life is made up of the sum of your decisions.
I will close with a thought
My grandmother always used to say:
“You choose. You choose. You choose. And you become what you choose.“
Don’t let fear trap you in a situation that hurts you, your family, and your relationships. At the same time, don’t run from a good thing because of something you could change.
Work hard! But don’t let it own you.
You are in the driver’s seat, and ultimately accountable for how you choose to respond to what life throws at you.
So, if this sounds like you, keep your chin up and walk away. Walk tall. Square up with confidence and go get ‘em!